And so we work it out by giving each other space to calm down, even if it takes a few days.
It’s usually me who starts talking to him first, even if I’m still mad.
My family lives in the Philippines while my husband’s lives in Korea.
We are currently based in Beijing, which means we are with neither family.
Welcome to the third and final part of the “TCKs in Love” interview series.
Join me as I interview part Chinese-Malaysian, part Filipino-Chinese Third Culture Kid Jackie who is married to her monocultural Korean husband. 🙂 Tell me a bit about your upbringing and how you met your spouse!
But the truth is, someone from a monocultural background might be more open-minded than me just because he’s more well-traveled.
A year and a half later we married, and since then we’ve moved back and forth between Seoul, Beijing and the Philippines. My father wasn’t certain if living abroad long-term was good for me, especially since I’d be so far away with no one with me.
My husband’s parents were also a bit uneasy about marrying an outsider (Read this for more info) and had already warned my husband about the potential misunderstandings and disagreements we would have because of our cultural differences.
Likewise, I like hearing how history had affected Koreans and why his culture is the way it is today.
What has been the best part about being married to a monocultural spouse? I’ve always been very confused growing up, trying to figure out my identity without anyone to guide me.